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Eastern Family Anticipations

We’ve heard about rigid, autocratic Eastern upbringings a bit lately, with Amy Chua’s book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother recounting infinite piano practice sessions after school and studies showing that Asian parents place higher emphasis on children’s academic achievement. But what we do n’t hear about are the many reasons why Asian families might be so demanding of their children.

One cause is that in most Asiatic cultures, ancestor adoration and paternal religiosity are very valued. Parents expect their kids to carry on the family name, serve their in- norms and respect and honor their mothers, including kids. Children are taught to become pleasant and silent, quiet and respectful. Emotional outbursts are discouraged, and babies who fail to meet their families’ anticipation are shamed ( also known as «losing face» ). Parents are scarcely upcoming with love or compliment because of the fear that they will stimulate laziness.

In contrast, extended households are typical in Asiatic communities and two or three years may live under the same roof. In many of these communities, the papa is head of household and significant decisions are made by him. Adult toddlers, despite their education and professional certification, are expected to stay home to take care of the old members of the household. This is especially true in China, where sons are considered superior to brothers. It is for these reasons that it can be challenging for Asians to acknowledge that their babies are unable to satisfy sure parental expectations and requirements.